Wednesday, September 09, 2015


A pair of philosophers have found a completely new way to make parents feel guilty about how they're raising kids. Instead of the usual guilt over what you might have failed to do for your own children, Adam Swift and Harry Brighouse say you should be feeling guilty for giving your kid a "loving family" when other kids don't have one.

According to Swift and Brighouse, parents who strive to provide the best for their children are creating an uneven playing field for those with less capable mothers and fathers. It’s fundamentally unfair. And you should feel guilty about that. According to Swift, “If the family is this source of unfairness in society then it looks plausible to think that if we abolished the family there would be a more level playing field."

The uneven playing field Swift and Brighouse ponder isn’t limited to issues like private school, which the pair would like to see banned (though how that would solve the bigger issue, the achievement gap between wealthy and poor school districts, isn’t addressed; won’t the influx of formerly private school families actually make the divide worse, not better?). They also point out that every night, when you read to your child, some other child somewhere is not being read to. Your child is on the path to a better future. They are unfairly pulling ahead in the Race of Life. Shouldn’t somebody be doing something about that?

Click here to read more about how you being a good parent is bad for society. And if you agree, then that's that.

On the other hand, if are not about to base your child-rearing on what other parents are not doing and are still determined to find the best school for your son or daughter, then make sure you sign up for one of my upcoming FREE "Getting Into NYC Kindergarten" workshops at a time, date and location convenient for you! (Space is limited so RSVP today!)

Sign up for September 16 (Kips Bay), here.

Sign up for September 24 (East Side), here.
Sign up for September 29 (Chelsea), here.
Sign up for October 16 (Brooklyn), here.
Sign up for October 21 (Upper West Side), here.

But first, check out the book, "Getting Into NYC Kindergarten," prior to the workshops. Reading it might prompt you to ask questions at the workshop you didn't even know you wanted to know!

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