I wrote the following piece for Kveller.com. I thought I was being reasonable. I didn't expect there to be a controversy. I was wrong. Please read and chime in with your thoughts....
We talk a lot here at Kveller about mom friends. Where to find them, how to make them, the care and feeding of… The ritual of proper playground hook-up etiquette
has become a mating dance of its own, with questions of when to call,
what it means when they don’t call back, and the fear of coming off as
seeming too needy.
But, the reality is that, in the year 2013, odds are that the parent
you end up hitting it off with by the sandbox, the one you begin looking
forward to seeing to help break up the monotony of your day, the one
you start fantasizing about asking out for coffee without the kids so
you guys can really talk and maybe become real friends with–sans
sandbox–could well be not a fellow mom, but a dad.
And then you’re faced with that infamous “When Harry Met Sally” dilemma: Can men and women (and/or moms and dads) ever be just friends?
When a Man Loves a Woman (though, considering it was a romance novel, you can guess for yourselves what the answer proved to be there).
The fact is I’ve always had male friends. I was the little girl who
preferred playing with boys over girls in elementary school (baseball
beats dress up). I had guy friends in high school and in college and on
the job. And because I work in television, that often meant late-night
editing sessions, work-related black tie events, and even overnight,
week-long trips to exotic locations like Albany, NY and Huntington, West
Virginia. Where my stories would often begin with, “So, it was 2 in the
morning and I turned to So-and-So and said…”
My husband has always had women friends, too. Some of them even
pre-date me and it’s not unusual, if I’m out of town, for me to call my
husband at 2 a.m. only to hear, “Oh, So-and-So is here, we’re watching
movies. Say hi!”
Now, it is very possible (and has been frequently suggested) that I
am too stupid to live. But, I prefer to trust my husband. Just like he
prefers to trust me.
Read the entire piece - and the comments it inspired - at: http://www.kveller.com/blog/parenting/can-moms-dads-be-just-friends/